Men are like NYC taxis, miss one, next few minutes one comin'

Long time Single Gals,

I have been going through my own drama! But nothing can keep a fabulous girl like me and you down. I am now an official "Single Gal". And actually I couldn't be happier. And you should be too because that means more dates to blog to my girls about and I'm sure plenty more mistakes to be made. But with you chicas comments I am sure it won't be that many mistakes ;)

So let's talk about this. Break-ups are hard. We have all been there before. But sometimes you have to take a step back and see if that relationship was building you up or breaking you down. Why settle with someone to just say you have someone. That's not fun! You deserve to be with someone that wants to build your empire together. You know your a great catch and if he isn't working out don't hang onto him like he is the last man you will ever meet. With my situation we were growing in two different directions. But his pace was very glacial as mine was a bit more accelerated and I feel that intimidated him. Which is a charecteristic that I do not like in a man. Your partner should always uplift you and encourage you. I want you to know your worth and know that their is a man out there that is sincere and wants to treat you well. So when you feel like your stuck in the rain without an umbrella ... just start dancing in the rain. No need to run for shelter your getting wet anyway :-P What I am saying is things may seem like they are falling apart and you can either let it break you down or you can believe you deserve more and when life hands you lemons take muddle them into citrus martinis :)

stay beautiful!

xx,

A

8.2 seconds to fall in love

How long to do you need to fall in love? According to a recent study, the longer Mr Right At The Moment looks into your loving stare, the more interested he is! According to scientists, 8.2 seconds could mean true love, 4 seconds could me you are history!

Food for thought SG Dolls!

xx,

A

You can have whatever you want...except a life!

"Alot of times in a relationship particularly with women who are associated with big, powerful men. The women believe that love is supposed to mean that I cut off my life so that it gives life to yours. Well, It doesn’t take cutting yours off to give life to his. He has a great life. He has a great woman. He has a great future and that future may include some things he doesn’t like but it’s not going to kill him. I guess you have to decide if his comfort is your goal or if what’s good for the both of you is your goal'

Is it worth it?

SG's I know we all have dreamed of the day that HE would come in and sweep us off our feet. You know who I'm talking about. Just your type, personality, his own place and his own car. The guy that when you look at him you can see your childrens face. Trips to "change the forecast", shopping sprees just because, God Fearing and belongs to a church already :) Wow! What a hot tamale and you can't wait to see the look on your fellow "Single Gals" or the married girls ...who in your mind settled just to be a Mrs. Let's not forget your nosey Tia's (Aunties) who remind you every family function that you are still single. Sex is amahhhhzzzinnng btw! ;) Just in case you were wondering.

But there is a catch?

He doesn't want you to work. To some this is the ideal situation but to most of us driven, fearless and smart "Single Gals" this is a red flag! We all have that friend that has that life or something like it and hear all the compliants they have. And you say well if I were in her Louboutins I would have nothing to complain about! Yes you would! So before you assume that the grass is greener sit back and think about how all your dreams and aspirations would need to be flushed down the toilet for Mr. Perfect! Not so perfect huh?

You need a man that wants to build your empire together. That doesn't want you to give up your life to live in his. Trust me "Single Gals" he is out there so know your worth and know what you deserve.

xx,

A

Perfect Date...NOT!

Hey Single Gals,

I was working the door at a New York City hotspot. That life consist of dressing like a bitch and acting like one as well. Yes! No! Yea! Never! Then there he was...asking for the nearest parking lot. Well I'm in bitch mode...but he is cute so I give him directions. Then POOF! Out of sight out of mind...not TOTALLY. Soon the lost stranger finds his self at my ropes waiting for entry. That's when the butterflies started. I locked eyes with the stranger and I could see he was interested. {heart racing...holding my breath...BREATHE BITCH BREATHE} I let him in and up he goes. I put my amigas that are there partying on alert...watch him and report back! Back to work it is...Not tonight love! Hi honey come on in! No! NO! The life at the door ... consist of ruining alot of peoples night...I'm sorry.

Shift change now I go mingle. Meet up with my amigas and walk around toasting to the good life when I realize the lost stranger is a friend of a friend. Now he is even more interesting and not much of a stranger anymore...or atleast in my mind! Introductions are done and I can't stop smiling. Ladies you know that feeling! I had prior plans so I skate out...as I hit the door he stops me and request I join him at the next spot! Umm no...but my body is saying yes. So I def' know to say no. He takes my number and then I'm gone. Could it be love at first sight? Could it be I'm just single and looking for a beau so since he visually fits the profile I am giving him more than he deserves? We shall see....

Fast forward >> to 1st date. He picks me up:

Location: La Esquina

Outfit: Summer flowy short-dress with minimal jewelry and platform strappy sandels.

Hair: Loose curls.

Make-Up: Light. Bronzer, Mascara and Pouty Lips.

After dinner we take a walk around the NY streets. And the conversation is going great! Wow! This is a great first date I know this is going to work out. We have so much in common even though we come from 2 different worlds. Holding hands and getting compliments froms strangers how they can see the "Love" . Scorrree!! So we ride home all the while both of us smiling. He drops me off with a long, passionate and eye's closed kiss! I like to peek! Up the stairs I go and I call my girls (conference ofcourse) to dish about the MOST PERFECT AND RELAXING date ever! While on phone I recieve the best post-date text "You are a beautiful girl, I love your smile and I had a great time" .

Next day .... no call/no text...a week passes still NOTHING! Was I treating my dating life like my job? Only letting those in who appear to be worthy pass the velvet ropes, judging soley by their "cover" instead of their "content"? Should I had seen this from the beginning that I was setting myself up for failure? Have you ever had a night that you can't ever forget and nothing came of it? Is it my fault? Was I too confident? Was I too much?

No! It was his loss. I'm beautiful, sexy, smart and successful in my own right. I am looking for a man that can handle all of the above and the woman I am becoming. Still growing still looking for a Knight in shining armour. Sooo in the end dating is like the working the door Yes! No! No! No! Yes! Once you let someone in it may not work out how you thought it would be but you must look in the mirror and smile. He just wasn't the one! Because be honest we date because we are looking for the one :) Nothing wrong with that! And the Single Gal life continues...

xx,
A

Anything look familiar to you?

Hi SG Dolls,

I came across this article and felt it was necessary to share with my dolls! The Top 5 Mistakes we make in dating in big cities. But Today...yes TODAY! I want you all to look at these statements and see how many apply to you and your dating life. Be honest with yourselves...don't worry no one is judging :) Once you get down to the bottom of the problem you will be a much more aware dater. I will never say that you will be perfect but you will be close to it ;)



TOP 5 Mistake we Single Gals make:

1. They call guys first
2. They sleep with men too soon
3. They ask the guy to define the relationship
4. They are too available
5. They allow everything to be on the man’s terms


and as if we didn't know already here are the Top 5 Mistakes MEN make:

1. They do not follow through
2. They ask questions about a woman’s romantic past
3. They have lost the ability to be chivalrous
4. They do not communicate well
5. They can be emotionally unavailable

So ladies we see what the dating experts/match makers say are the most common mistakes we make. I know what your saying..."I was available...why can't I go out with him?" . I say the same thing too but I will definetely try to watch what I do on that list from now on and I will report back! What will you do?

xx,

A

All my Single Ladies...Throw your "Perfectly Manicured" hands up!

Hello Dolls!



I know I know...we are smart, beautiful , successful or soon to be, sexy and with even sexier closets, living in beautiful cities and we have everything except that great love in our life. But why do we have sooo many problems with MEN?!! So I decided to start a blog about it! There is nothing wrong with you!! Pero please understand we can stand to learn more from other's experiences. What I plan to bring you from "Single Gals and the City" is dating stories from real SINGLE GALS all around the world! Plus great advice on date spots in the different cities that yours truely and my fabulous SINGLE GALS live in! Let's not forget about the fashion so we will give you different stylish looks and make-up tips great for all types of dates that you will totally LIVE FOR! Let's not forget about the SEX! We will have great tips and stories on that as well the GOOD and the BAD! Owwwww! We all have a Samantha, Carrie, Charolette and Miranda in us....so we are sharing our lives with you and learning from others mistakes. Think of this blog as your girlfriend with the next day juice on a date! How great are those stories!?! Look forward to all your feedback as well as all your success stories because whether you want to believe it or not dolls there is someone for everyone! Your knight is just around the corner...keep your eyes open and don't miss your turn.



xx,

A