He loves me...I love him not!

"Practically all the relationships I know are based on a foundation of lies and mutually accepted delusion"

While chatting with friends I find out a friend has been in a faux relationship for over a year. The man believes he will someday marry her. While she has no plans on marrying him. She keeps him around because he takes care of her... while he on the other hand is thinking he is taking care of his future wife. She has different plans. What do you guys think? Is it okay for her to take advantage of him and his heart? Sound off!

Case of the Ex

Dolls,

Time and time again in this single life we find ourselves "playing ourselves" by scrolling through our phone to "his" number. Yes you know who I am talking about! That guy that broke your heart, the guy that wasn't ready to settle down, that guy that didn't love you as much as you loved him. He put you through all this heartache and pain... instead of being alone you call him to keep you warm and in an attempt to not add to your list of lovers right! But why are you settling. Don't you think if you are single you are meant to be that way... so you can focus on you!

While falling for someone who before left you with your heart in pieces for you and your close girlfriends to clean up. You couldn't go to certain places because it reminded you of "him". So why let him back him. We all do! Once or twice until we learn. But come to find out he is still the same fool that you were with before. He hasn't changed and probably never will. He is a good person but just not the one for you. You have to take a step back and see what vicious cycle your putting yourself back into when we all know our feelings never really disconnect. But ask yourself..."Is this relationship healthy?"

What is the difference between then and now? Is he courting you? Is he treating you the way that you deem for new prospects to treat you? Are you holding him to the same standards as the man you would ideally like to date? Then why let him even be in your presence?

I think I have grown tired of going backwards and forward I will go only. If that means spending nights alone. I'd rather be with me... instead of being with a man that doesn't think I am good enough to be with he!

Tell me your story...

On the Prowl....

Hey Single Gals,

One evening while getting ready to head down to the a Sunday eve at Pink Elephant with some friends. I realized as I was preparing for the evening I was putting a lot of effort into making sure my hair was just right, make-up on light and lip gloss was glossy as all possible. All this to end up tipsy with no one to bring home. I am on a kick where I just don't want to hop into bed with just anyone. My Samantha days have run their course. Although my vibrator was becoming my "dick in a box" I wasn't sure that the next wedding invite I would receive would consider my vibrator as a plus one. le'sigh...

Time after time we find ourselves going to the sames places hanging with the same people meeting the same men. But instead of continuing down that path my new efforts towards meeting a different type of man is bar hopping! As I have tended bar for years I know it is pretty easy to start up a conversation with a person bar. When you sit at the bar you showing that you are available for a chat. I enjoy going to hotel bars and ordering a glass of wine or a tasty martini and waiting for a gentleman to chat you up. Trust me they will. So I took my new theory on the road.

First stop was the beautiful Soho Grand's bar The Grand Bar and Lounge. I opt'ed to sit at the bar since I was alone and didn't want to seem as if I was waiting for someone. I ordered the Passion Fruit Cosmopolitan which was tasty and light. I sipped slow and surveyed the scene. Plenty of Europeans flooded the bar. None that caught the eye so I continued to sip and think about my day and enjoy the music. The music wasn't anything I was use to but it had a great beat. Halfway through my drink an older gentleman walked over and told me I was beautiful and offered me another drink. Older men have a certain way with the ladies that make you not automatically dismiss them. Also he was from Spain so I was interested in chatting as this a place I would love to visit soon. We talked for a little over 30 min's. In that time I found out he was a business man moving back from Miami to New York. Loves the arts as well as anything New York! My kind of man :) He is older we exchanged info...so we shall see!

So I challenge you dolls! To get out there with a girlfriend and hit up some bar's you have never gone too. You will meet all different types of men honey! You will loooove!!!

Report back and let me know...maybe I will see you at bar soon :)

Feel Like Royalty at the Bull & Bear at the Waldorf-Astoria

*This is a recent Article on www.TEMPTED.com by Mary Kate. I loved it I had to share with you dolls! Try something different! Think outside the box and have a blast! Live Love Life!

Straight out of a scene from Sex and the City, three of my girlfriends and I were wandering down Lexington Avenue, checking out the men in suits. While husband shopping, the most horrific thing that could’ve possibly happened to four girls dressed like classy hookers did occur—we got caught in a torrential downpour. Since all four of us were relatively new to the city, we weren’t sure where to go to wait out the summer monsoon so we wandered into the Bull & Bear Steakhouse bar at the Waldorf-Astoria.

“Do you have any idea how expensive this place is going to be?” My friend Lisa asked.

I scanned the bar that The New York Times called “one of the world’s three greatest, classic bars” and made an executive decision. “Um, this place is packed with older men. We’re like babies to them … I think it’s entirely possible to score some free booze! We’re staying.”

We shook ourselves off like dirty dogs and walked towards the bar where a gentleman not only cleared a space for us and gave us his seats, but he also offered to order our first round of drinks.

“Oscar, get these beautiful ladies whatever they’d like. It’s on me!”

I gave my friends the “I told you so” look and we made ourselves comfortable. The bartender came over and introduced himself to us, his name was Oscar and his partner-in-crime/bartending, Adel, soon followed. “We’re going to get you good and liquored up—be prepared.”

It was 2001 and none of us had “real” jobs, so despite the fact that it was a Tuesday night, we were down for the challenge. To the disapproval of Oscar, I ordered a chardonnay. He suggested I try the Brancott Sauvignon Blanc from New Zealand —this was the beginning of the end for me because I am now beyond obsessed with this wine. I took one sip of this grapefruit-y drink from the gods and it was lights out. My friends ordered the same drink and we settled into our seats and entered into heaven.

The place had a few tourists, but it was mostly older Wall Street/Park Avenue men looking to booze it up after work and avoid their nagging wives and annoying children. A few creepy guys who could’ve been my grandfather began hitting on me. I chatted them up because—quite frankly—I didn’t want to pay for my drinks.

The one gramps leaned in to whisper a sweet nothing into my ear. “Do you know Judy Blume’s sitting on the other side of you?”

What? Judy Blume?! I grew up reading her books! I was thrilled to discover that I was sitting next to Ms. Are You There God, It’s Me, Margaret. After a few drinks I got up the nerve to speak to her—turns out she’s a bit of a regular—I’ve seen her at the B&B multiple times since then. She’s always very sweet and entertaining. After deciding to leave her alone, I turned my attention back to the rest of the bar. There was an older lady in a hat who seemed to know everyone at the bar—she typically wears these hats while sipping on martinis—we dubbed her “Crazy Hat Lady.” There was this total phony of a guy who claims to be Mediterranean royalty, but after googling him I realized it was just the Makers Mark talking. Then I met a guy who said he’d like to set me up with his son, but it turns out he wanted me for himself … and how could I forget about the guy who looked just like Frasier from Cheers! He told me he was going to help me find a job, but he just wanted my phone number—and my friend’s!

“You know I played with Sinatra, Billie Holiday, Dizzy Gillespie,” this voice came out of nowhere. I turned around to see some crazy old dude with stars in his eyes, and too much vodka dancing around in his liver. I turned back to the bar to discover that Oscar had filled up my glass of wine—it was practically overflowing—oh hi, I am going to go black out now. Be back later.

The Bull & Bear oozes class and swank. The mahogany bar and wood-paneled room is large enough to seat at least 20 people and it circles (in a pentagon shape) a wooden carving of a bull and a bear—shocking, I know. If you’re into the stock market, there’s a ticker running in the back of the bar, but it’s pretty much so Chinese to me. The large windows look out onto 49th street and Lexington Avenue—if your perfect finance guy isn’t chugging bottomless glasses of wine at the bar, you might be able to flag him down on the corner and offer him a specialty beer or knock-you-out martini!

As one of the most historic and well-recognized bars in New York City, this celebrated steakhouse offers hearty portions of traditional fare like lobster and roasted chicken, as well as weekly specials. In addition to its impressive selection of fresh seafood, Bull and Bear was the first restaurant on the Eastern Seaboard serving the Prime grade of Certified Angus Beef®. Since I eat like a bird or a rabbit, I tend to stick to my liquid dinners. This never bodes well for the following morning.

Fast-forward eight years—I am still living at the Bull & Bear bar. Adel is still around, but Oscar retired to Florida. The drinks are still as strong as ever and the pours just keep on coming. Oh, and the people I mentioned earlier—they’re the regulars and I even know them by name!

Even though the hotel is part of the Hilton Empire, you’re more likely to catch a glimpse of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, than a Hilton. The hotel and its bars and restaurants are not only gawking spots for Kansas tourists, but celebrities have been known to hide amongst that dude who just removed his wedding band and placed it in his back pocket as the clock struck 8pm. And here comes the caravan of working girls.

SG's Bachelor of the Moment: Aaron Maybin

Hi "Single Gals" my new thing is finding all the Eligible Bachelors and showcasing them right here! Not just any Single Guy... but the "Crème de la Crème!" So without further ado I present to you...

Aaron Maybin of the Buffalo Bills

Quickly his stats: 21 y.o , 6'4", 250pds, Graduate of Penn State, Member of the Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity

"I've seen that great men and women are often lonely. This is understandable, because they have built such high standards for themselves that they often feel alone. But that same loneliness is part of their ability to create greatness."-Aaron Maybin

Get a glimpse of him in 10 questions!

1. What is your sign? (may sound cheesy but it really does matter to us gals)

Aries

*pow pow me too*

2. Are you single,attached or in a complicated situation?

As Single As They Come.

3. What attracts you to a woman?

There are a million things about every woman that make her unique and Beautiful so its hard to generally say Im attracted to one thing in particular. However, one of the traits I am growing to love more about a woman is confidence. A woman who knows who she is and is comfortable in her own skin to know that she is both sexy and independent. She knows that she holds my attention because shes the Baddest thing in the room. Even if she is not the best looking woman, that confidence is sexy. There are too many women out there who are so beautiful and yet still insecure. Thats a big turn off for me. I need my woman to know she turns heads.

4. What do you think makes you a good catch (besides ur muscles)?

Lol, I think the fact that I know how to appreciate a Good woman. There are very few left out there so you have to treat them like they deserve to be treated. Like royalty. LOL, But really, i think that is also whats missing from a lot of men right now.

5. Your ideal first date?

I actually dont date to be honest with you.

**bonus:he is an artist... this is his work a piece titled "wrapped up in u 2" which he sells prints of for only $85.00**

6. What are you views on dating while in your industry? (locker room talk incl. do you involve yourself)

There are many guys that involve themselves with a lot of that Locker room talk, But thats just not my way. Its actually disappointing to see sometimes, when people will essentially get passed around and rotated like Musical chairs. Everybody is chasing something. Money, fame, attention, a player that makes more $ than her last, lol. Its sad, because Im sure there are some good women in the mix also. But who wants to give them the opportunity when u have the others to look out for. I just see it as being easier and more efficient way of keeping your guards up and protecting yourself to not date pple in the industry that have dated people i know.

7. Why do you think athletes get such a hard wrap...don't you think honesty will keep most of them out of hot water?

No it wont...for a very simple reason. Because most women dont really want to hear the real truth. They have had so many men attempt to run game on them that they subconsciously expect men to lie, Cheat, Disrespect them etc. And the funny thing is, things have gotten so bad that if you expose some woman to the truth instead of a lie, they dont even know how to react. Athletes get a hard wrap because too many guys play the games that I mentioned earlier. The thought of a real Monogamous relationship has been a lost notion to most athletes because of the fact that 99% of the woman that we meet only want us for what we have and not who we are. With that being the case, who can be trusted. A smart man knows that the answer to that question is no one. The Dating Game has become just that, a Game. A show and tell of Players Salaries and Wealth all in the pursuit of 1 thing...Sex. Guys have lost the desire to chase the dream so the find themselves content with the physical satisfaction of women they know they could never allow themselves to trust or love in the first place.

8. Which city has the most "groupies/opportunist"?

Miami without question, lol. Just think about the places where all your groupie friends plan ahead to go to...Super Bowl, Pro Bowl, NBA ALL Star Weekend etc.

(i'm gonna let him slide on the "all your groupie friends" lol my gals don't do the hunting they are the prey... moving right along)*side eye*

9. Would you ever go on a blind date?

Hell No, lol

10. last ? -- Will you be having a sex tape out soon or evidence of sex-ting hitting the web!!?

LOL, U WISH!! U CANT PUT THIS STUFF ON CAMERA. AMERICA AINT READY

If you want to get know him more follow his lead on twitter @AaronMaybin58

or check out his site! www.AaronMaybin.com

Swoon! I would also like to add that Aaron is hosting an charity event coming up "A Celebration of the Arts" in his hometown the DMV aka. DC, Maryland and Virginia! So go check him out! No stalkers please!

Don't forget to comment dolls and let me know what ?'s you would like to ask a future bachelor or if you have any great men you would like to featured. I'm a "sucker for love" and I hope this give's you dolls hope that there are still great men out there...

“Women are like apples on trees, the best ones are on the top of the tree. The men don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and don’t want to get hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren’t so good but easy. So, the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top because they value quality.”
–Author Unknown

*doublekisses*

A

Spice up your Love Life: Sex-ting..The Good & The Bad

Single Gals!

"If you don't send your boyfriend nudes, I feel sorry for him!"-Rhianna

I totally understand with technology these days it's easy to keep the spice in a relationship by sending a sexy picture or video to your significant other. It's harmless right. Your in love, your in the best shape of your life and you want him to know that this is all his! I agree...I have been one to send a few sext or actually a "few more" than a few to my man. But in all honesty if they were to surface (bc a bad break-up makes for a bitter man) or if I lost my phone I can honestly say I wouldn't be mad. Now is the time to do it! When your young! Lol. My thoughts are if things are in their place why not showboat a little. I mean no sagging no cellulite no stretch marks! The body is the most beautiful piece of art...so share with your man! But with that being said... once you press send you risk sharing that with the world. So my advice is to make sure your photo shoot is done right. Here are a few tips...and for the shy girls I got you too!

1. Alway wear what compliments you most. Be it his T-Shirt, your new lovely pieces from Agent Provocateur or a great pair of Christian Louboutins.

2. Make sure your hair and make up are done and don't forget to moisturize :) lol this is for you man put some effort into it!

3. Go hard or go home...If your gonna do this do it all the way! Make it sexy...look to Playboy for inspiration! It's fun!

4. Make sure he sends you pictures first! lol We normally aren't petty by putting dudes out (ex. Greg Odon) but it makes him also live out his sexual inhibitions which in the end turns you both on for an all out love fest as soon as you see each other! Nothing like a little anticipation to Spice Up Your Love Life

Btw...this isn't for everyone so PLAY AT YOUR OWN RISK and let's hope I don't end up seeing your goodies all over Perez Hilton! But if I do...they better be your most beautiful shots to date! lol

If you have any suggestions to add please free to comment! Or just comment and tell me why you agree or disagree ;)

Until next time dolls! xx *doublekisses*

A

Blind Date: His P.O.V.

Hey Dolls,

So the other day while browsing thru twitter (follow me @aprella_ella) . I saw a tweet from a friend of a friend saying he was prepping for a blind date set up by his mother. Wow! This was a young brother from North Carolina that was actually letting his mom play cupid! I had to grill him when the date was over and here is what he had to say.

He went into the date with an open mind and was very pleased with what his mother set up...I guess "Mother knows best!"

First Impression...

"she was absolutely gorgeous...beautiful face with a smile to match...her style was up to par."

The Date...

"started at Olive Garden for lunch, followed by a movie "Book of Eli", and a late night walk around the University Boardwalk"

The Vibe...

"was incredible...never bored me with anything she said...shared the same viewpoints on a lot of issues....she also had [sense of] humor which is required to have to deal with me"

Will there be a 2nd date...

"we established a 2nd date before the first was over..."

Well this date was a success and what I loved about it was his willingness to go on a blind date with an open mind. If more of us would let go of trying to control where our heart can find love and just go with the flow we may find someone that is worthy of our FABULOUSITY! So who is going to go on that next date when they have family or friend that says "I have someone who is perfect for you" ?!?

I hope you will...

until next time dolls *doublekisses*