He loves me...I love him not!

"Practically all the relationships I know are based on a foundation of lies and mutually accepted delusion"

While chatting with friends I find out a friend has been in a faux relationship for over a year. The man believes he will someday marry her. While she has no plans on marrying him. She keeps him around because he takes care of her... while he on the other hand is thinking he is taking care of his future wife. She has different plans. What do you guys think? Is it okay for her to take advantage of him and his heart? Sound off!

Case of the Ex

Dolls,

Time and time again in this single life we find ourselves "playing ourselves" by scrolling through our phone to "his" number. Yes you know who I am talking about! That guy that broke your heart, the guy that wasn't ready to settle down, that guy that didn't love you as much as you loved him. He put you through all this heartache and pain... instead of being alone you call him to keep you warm and in an attempt to not add to your list of lovers right! But why are you settling. Don't you think if you are single you are meant to be that way... so you can focus on you!

While falling for someone who before left you with your heart in pieces for you and your close girlfriends to clean up. You couldn't go to certain places because it reminded you of "him". So why let him back him. We all do! Once or twice until we learn. But come to find out he is still the same fool that you were with before. He hasn't changed and probably never will. He is a good person but just not the one for you. You have to take a step back and see what vicious cycle your putting yourself back into when we all know our feelings never really disconnect. But ask yourself..."Is this relationship healthy?"

What is the difference between then and now? Is he courting you? Is he treating you the way that you deem for new prospects to treat you? Are you holding him to the same standards as the man you would ideally like to date? Then why let him even be in your presence?

I think I have grown tired of going backwards and forward I will go only. If that means spending nights alone. I'd rather be with me... instead of being with a man that doesn't think I am good enough to be with he!

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On the Prowl....

Hey Single Gals,

One evening while getting ready to head down to the a Sunday eve at Pink Elephant with some friends. I realized as I was preparing for the evening I was putting a lot of effort into making sure my hair was just right, make-up on light and lip gloss was glossy as all possible. All this to end up tipsy with no one to bring home. I am on a kick where I just don't want to hop into bed with just anyone. My Samantha days have run their course. Although my vibrator was becoming my "dick in a box" I wasn't sure that the next wedding invite I would receive would consider my vibrator as a plus one. le'sigh...

Time after time we find ourselves going to the sames places hanging with the same people meeting the same men. But instead of continuing down that path my new efforts towards meeting a different type of man is bar hopping! As I have tended bar for years I know it is pretty easy to start up a conversation with a person bar. When you sit at the bar you showing that you are available for a chat. I enjoy going to hotel bars and ordering a glass of wine or a tasty martini and waiting for a gentleman to chat you up. Trust me they will. So I took my new theory on the road.

First stop was the beautiful Soho Grand's bar The Grand Bar and Lounge. I opt'ed to sit at the bar since I was alone and didn't want to seem as if I was waiting for someone. I ordered the Passion Fruit Cosmopolitan which was tasty and light. I sipped slow and surveyed the scene. Plenty of Europeans flooded the bar. None that caught the eye so I continued to sip and think about my day and enjoy the music. The music wasn't anything I was use to but it had a great beat. Halfway through my drink an older gentleman walked over and told me I was beautiful and offered me another drink. Older men have a certain way with the ladies that make you not automatically dismiss them. Also he was from Spain so I was interested in chatting as this a place I would love to visit soon. We talked for a little over 30 min's. In that time I found out he was a business man moving back from Miami to New York. Loves the arts as well as anything New York! My kind of man :) He is older we exchanged info...so we shall see!

So I challenge you dolls! To get out there with a girlfriend and hit up some bar's you have never gone too. You will meet all different types of men honey! You will loooove!!!

Report back and let me know...maybe I will see you at bar soon :)

Feel Like Royalty at the Bull & Bear at the Waldorf-Astoria

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